June 11, 2011

Invictus

“Invictus” is a short Victorian poem by the English poet William Ernest Henley (1849–1903).


Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

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April 3, 2012

Sometimes we manufacture anger…

“Sometimes we manufacture anger to give ourselves the illusion of power when we feel weak and helpless”

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April 3, 2012

A control Freak

“The sort of person who made decisions on other people’s behalf and justified it on the grounds that it was for their own good”

March 18, 2012

A secure base

The British psychoanalyst John Bowlby identified a healthy attachment to parents as the crucial ingredient in a child’s well-being.

When parents act with empathy and are responsive to a child’s needs, they build a basic sense of security.

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March 14, 2012

“Getting to know you” at the neural level

At the neural level, my “getting to know you: means my acquiring a resonance with your emotional patterns and mental maps. And the more our maps overlap, the more identified we feel and the greater the shared reality we create. As we grow to identify with each other, the mind’s categories undergo a merging of sorts, so that we unconsciously think about those most important to us in very much the same ways we think about ourselves.

Husbands and wives, for instance, tend to find it easier to name ways they are similar to each other than the ways they differ – but only if they are happy with each other. If not, the differences loom larger.

 

 

March 1, 2012

Holding anger is a poison

“Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves” ~ Mitch Albom

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March 1, 2012

Love, Like Rain

“Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive” ~ Mitch Albom

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