I was watching a movie (Love & other drugs) when many ideas came up to my mind. forcing me to write, to express the feelings that it imposes in me.
I have always liked the scenario of a love story between a couple one of them is ill, and when I say ill I mean that kind of disease that tries to destroy our life, making us having a normal life is a challenge.
This kind of love stories is one of the strongest relationship I can ever imagine.
For this state of a disease make us fragile, more capable of understanding the importance of the moments we spend with the one we love, to read that eye-contact correctly, to feel that touch deeply and to be in love actually. Not just pretending to do so, or to live under one roof but separate lives, acting like we have a girlfriend, wife or what so ever while we are willing to cheat whenever the chance came up.
Love will be expressed in its true meaning away from faked life needs, presents (wich turns to be bought because of the occasion or …. the habit, or because everyone is used to buy it and we don’t want to make a difference), places we dream to visit not knowing that any place could be great if the one we love is accompanying us.
when happiness is to take good care of both.
I have always been against that behavior, the we used to learn forward to act as an Alpha male/female just to feel powerful, that everyone wants us, or staring at us… you may have many one-night-stand, presents, invitations and a good social position. but I see all of this is the DUST of life, not the true meaning of it at all.
Actually, the extreme power that we may ever have, is to be beloved by the surrounding people, not by position life may give us or beauty that we born with.
To make my idea clear, let’s suppose that, if the one you love, happened to have an accident which is hospital demanding… at that moment you will feel how much you love him/her. Maybe it’s because you are afraid of loosing him/her or the idea of not being able to see him/her anymore. and if this happen in a period of unrest (misunderstanding) and problems, you behave as if there is nothing wrong, you forget the problems, leave the pride aside and you become yourself again cause you know how much does he/she mean to you…
what about if that feeling is a whole life, a true relation that you feel every day???
I’m aware that living such a life might be a great love story, theoretically… because of the stress that increases by the day, and the help you need to offer everyday (depending on the stage of the disease), and the depression or low self-esteem that the diseased one may feel from time to time. BUT actually it can be done even though life offers more opportunity to the other person who is taking care to meet new partners (more beautiful, powerful..), Cheating will become easier by the day n the idea of breakup or divorce may come up to the mind regularly… but this is so selfish & unhuman. I just imagine myself at the opposite situation, it’s not FAIR!!!
But when you believe that this person is the one you love, and what are you doing is not a duty but your happiness in life. you will do appreciate those moments and that person himself. and that inexpressible meaning of two bodies in one soul…can be reality again.
One last thing i want to say…. specially for those who have a disease…
You have the right to shut down, but please don’t. we are not perfect, any of us, we make mistakes, we screwed up.. but then we forgive and we move forward.
We all are human beings, that we born weak, we need someone to take care or us (often our parents).. then we became strong that we do a lot of shit n harm to everyone, even those who we love not aware that we are going to be weak again needing some-one to take care of us again but this time by our children or some institutes
Thank you for making us appreciate the meaning of the moments, of what does it mean to take care… to appreciate LIFE!
For all those healthy people.. Don’t waste your life & health in fights with the one you love everyday. Imagine the concept of death… I’m sure many, many of the problems wont be a disaster if we think that, this might be the last time we may see that person!!!
Life can be happy but we have to understand it insightful.
Movies that imposes these ideas are: