Suzy Welch has mentioned in her book “10-10-10“
We have friends who have become dear to us because our paths cross so often that something simpatico has blossomed. And then there are memory friends, the people with whom we’ve shared a seminal period of our past. BUT the best friendship of all,are those that combine all of the above elements. Your paths cross often enough to keep you current, you have history to ground you, and have some form of shared identity to sustain you.
In this way, good friends can become our most enjoyable and easiest relationships. They don’t carry the responsibility of marriage, the stress of extended family, or the angst of raising children.
Ironically, therein lies friendship’s inherent fragility. We love and need our friends. We turn to them for solace in time of crisis and rely on their unvarnished advice. But they often take a backseat to the other relationships in our lives. We’re not bound to them by blood like our relatives, by legal documentation and cultural expectations like our spouses, or by a paycheck like our coworkers.
Friends, practically by definition, can wait.
And when things start to go wrong in a friendship, we can walk away and pretend nothing in our lives has really changed. We can stay in the same house, work at the same job, and go about our daily business without obvious upheaval.
Beside, of course, the upheaval in our hearts.