Marriage. Almost everyone I knew had a problem with it. Some had problems getting into it, some had problems getting out. My generation seemed to struggle with the commitment, as if it were an alligator from some murky swamp. I had gotten used to attending weddings, congratulating the couple, and feeling only mild surprise when I saw the groom a few years later sitting in a restaurant with a younger woman whom he introduced as a friend!
Why do we have such problems? I asked Morrie about this
Well, I feel sorry for your generation,” Morrie said.
In this culture, it’s so important to find a loving relationship with someone because so much of the culture does not give you that. But the poor kids today, either they’re too selfish to take part in a real loving relationship, or they rush into marriage and the six months later, they get divorced. They don’t know what they want in a partner. They don’t know who they are themselves — so how can they know who they’re marrying?
He sighed. Morrie had counseled so many unhappy lovers in his years as a professor. “It’s sad, because a loved one is so important. You realize that, especially when you’re in a time like I am, when you are not doing so well. Friends are great, but friends are not going to be there on a night when you can’t sleep and someone has to sit up all night with you, comfort you, try to be helpful.”
Morris “Morrie” S. Schwartz (December 20, 1916 – November 4, 1995) was a sociology professor at Brandeis University and an author.